Angel Wings and Herb Tea

Life after loss; healing through creativity, writing and art

Gratitude

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Last week I felt odd, hence last weeks odd post. Jumbled up and sleep deprived and rushed and hemmed in.
A little space this week thanks to two days of granny care for the children. I have been next door to our wonderful neighbour’s house for a yoga class. My family and I ate a delicious New Years day lunch at the house of some lovely friends who wanted to give us a break from building our house.

These may seem like little things, but in the whirlwind of these final house building days they are precious moments of rest, positivity and rejuvenation. It has been to easy to be dragged down by the mud, the relentlessness of the tasks still to complete, the demands and needs of the children, but these interludes have given me the space to remember that life is good and reaching out to others and receiving the gifts they have to offer is a blessed thing. It often feels more comfortable for me to be the giver, makes me feel better, like I have earned my right to be here. And so for me to receive the gifts of others is hard, but completes the circle of friendship. There are times when I can be supportive and help others and there are times like now, when to receive with grace and no apologies is the most loving thing I can do.

And in these moments of gratitude and receiving I find I can also appreciate those things that I have found hard to accept, like building a home in a place where Lily has not lived.

As our little home in the woods nears completion, (Hugh and Freddie nailed down the last floorboard yesterday) I can honestly say that I am now quite excited that we’ll be moving in next week. As I have spent more time on the land, stapling recycled blankets on ceilings, hammering on wall slates, being in the woods, I have begun, slowly to accept that this will soon be our home. For a long time, despite the excitement that everyone expresses when I talk about our little cabin on the land, I found it hard to share the enthusiasm, Partly, because as we are right in the middle of the build, in winter, racing against a deadline, and it’s hard to see the bigger picture. Partly because I found it hard to imagine living away from the place where Lily spent her last months. Now, thanks to the generosity of friends we are having a two month ‘holiday’ in a house, and I am finding it possible to live here, despite the fact that Lily has not. It is ok to move on.

And it will be ok to move again, to our new home. The clear spaces and little interludes this week have enabled me to feel wisps of excitement, feathery between the tiredness.  How the land will develop and flourish….herbs, goats, vegetables….secret plans….And I’ve even started making curtains, and researching old whiskey barrels as bath tubs!

I’m so very grateful to the many people who have helped us along our path. We have asked for , and been offered so much practical and loving help and support, we don’t feel alone. It’s hard to ask and hard to accept help but the bonds of community and connection and love are far more beautiful than  the stranglehold of independance and isolation.  And I also love being here, writing, and reading your comments, the stolen moments where  I can sneak in a new post, the lovely words of sharing, encouragement and support.
Thankyou.

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3 thoughts on “Gratitude

  1. Glad to hear you are getting lots of support and being looked after . . . really looking forward to reading about your family settling in to your new home . . . and I wonder what those secret plans are!

  2. Hello, thank you so much for stopping by my blog and commenting. I'm so genuinely glad to have found you! I have been looking around and reading some of your story via your beautiful words… your approach to life and what you are doing as a family reaches out to me. I can't wait to read more. I hope you will stop by again sometime, I know I will be x

  3. Ah Laurel secret plans will be divulged in time…we're really looking forward to settling finally!And thankyou Alice for your kind words too, I'm really looking forward to following your adventures too!

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